Developing good communication skills is an important part of living a fulfilled life. Effectively communicating your career, personal, and everyday needs in a way that comes across clearly, persuasively, and thoughtfully is crucial; and yet, not everyone knows how. It isn't innate, and many bright, talented, and dedicated people don't get where they should, all because they fail to adequately communicate their point.
Don't let that be your fate. No matter what your age, background, or experience, effective communication is a skill you can learn (no matter how you might feel about it now). With a little self-confidence and knowledge of the basics of good communications you will be able to effectively communicate your message in both conversations and presentations, in all walks of life.
This is steps for the communicate effectively with other :
Step 1
Always place yourself on even ground with the other party. Don't hover over them. This is intimidating and serves only to push the conflict to another level. If they are sitting, you should sit with them. Sitting is always a good idea in a conflict, across the table from one another.
Step 2
Listen to the other party. Allow them to state their feelings and opinions. Wait until they are finished before you begin to state your feelings and options. Truly listen to what they have to say and ask if they are finished before you begin talking.
Step 3
Speak in a calm voice and state your side of the argument. Express your feelings and opinions and make it clear that you heard and understand their side. Don't raise your voice and throw accusations at the other party. Try to take what they had to say into consideration and use it to reach a middle ground. Refrain from telling the other party they don't understand and don't insist you're right, even when you believe you are.
Step 4
Don't follow the other party out of the room to finish the argument. If they feel the need to get away from you, allow them to do so, Let them return when they are calmer. You should avoid stalking out of the room before the disagreement has been concluded, but do leave the room if you feel you're going to have a blow-up.
Step 5
Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and at least try to understand why they feel the way they feel about the situation, even if you still disagree.
Step 6
Don't try to get the last word in. Sometimes a conflict can't be resolved, but both parties can agree to disagree and move on from there.
